Stages of Life
Prenatal: Conception-Birth
Infancy: Birth-24 months
Early Childhood: 3-5 years old
Middle/Late Childhood: 6-11 years old
Adolescence: 12-21 years old
Early Adulthood: 20s & 30s
Middle Adulthood: 40s & 50s
Late Adulthood: 60s-Death
Discussion Questions:
"The Developing Parent" by Marissa L. Diehner
1. Reflect on the way you were raised. Consider the parenting behaviors (eg., rules, discipline strategies, warmth, and support) used in your household when you were a child. Why do you think you parents behaved this way? How do these factors fit with the influences on parenting described here? Provide specific examples of multiple influences on parenting.
Response: My parents raised me to be very independent. When I was little I lived on a ranch, so they couldn't always do everything for me because they were out working. I can't say I got into much trouble as a child, so I cannot remember much punishment. I can definitely say I was way closer to my dad than my mom. I went everywhere and did everything with him, and he has always been my biggest supporter in everything. My mom was more of a stern parent. I never broke her rules because I was afraid to.
3. What type of parent do you envision yourself becoming? If you are a parent, how do you parent your child/children? How do you think this is similar to or different than the way you were raised? What influences exist in your life that will make you parent differently from your own parents?
Response: I think the type of parent I would be would be very similar to my mom. I would be kind of stern, and I would make sure they know right from wrong, and of course the consequences for doing wrong. However, I would be closer with my child/children, and I would let them know they can talk to me about anything. My mother had a hard time being close to me. Since I lived on a ranch the first 5 years of my life, I did not get to interact much with other children. I know this is not my parents fault, and I am not mad at them for it. However, I would make sure to have my child around other children. I am kind of an introvert and not much of a people person. I want my children to develop people skills early on.
"Attachment Through the Life Course" by R. Chris Fraley
1. What kind of relationship did you have with your parents or primary caregivers when you were young? Do you think that had any bearing on the way you related to others (e.g., friends, relationship partners) as you grew older?
Response: As a child I was way more closer to my dad than my mom. This wasn't a bad thing it was just my mother and I did not have much in common. I was very energetic and active just like my dad was. My mother was more on the calm and subtle side. I cannot say that this impacted me negatively at all. I have had good friendships and even relationships.
4. Some people, despite reporting insecure relationships with their parents, report secure, well-functioning relationships with their spouses. What kinds of experiences do you think might enable someone to develop a secure relationship with their partners despite having an insecure relationship with other central figures in their lives?
Response: I believe that people who did not have secure relationships with their parents use their experiences and try to avoid being like them as much as possible. They work extra hard to have secure relationships with other people. They take their insecure experiences and make it a positive impact instead of negative.
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